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We are a collaboration between worlds, family and friends, a roundtable of explorers, healers,
teachers, and seekers dedicated to the mission …

The story of how Ashley, Alex and myself all came together to create I AM MY OWN TEACHER is an example of how life can bring bring you the most unexpected magic, and how wonder can be created out of chaos, even heartbreak.

Ashley and I had known each other socially ( or something) for years, before being reconnected through Alex and realizing that we were soul sisters on the same path etc…. meant to work together.…

Alex and I have held many Ceremonies together, exploring our consciousness and sharing with each other t and assisting each other during their integration processes. We also share a last name, as she is married to Todd Belfer, who happens to be my ex husband. We realize how unique and special our type of relationship is, and how inspiring it can be for other modern families.

That bond was deepened even further, when my oldest son, Grayson, unexpectedly transitioned into spirit, leaving us all clinging to one another in the deepest grief imaginable.

A true phoenix rising from the ashes story, it was Grayson’s transition, and the almost immediate reemergence, of his soul’s energy into all of our lives, that irrefutably demonstrated, that he is still HERE and guiding us into the next chapter.

We are a collaboration of worlds, family, and friends―a roundtable of explorers, healers, teachers, and seekers. Together, we are united by a shared mission: to guide and empower individuals to embrace self discovery, healing, and personal growth by recognizing their inner wisdom as the ultimate guide to transformation.

The story how Julie, Ashley & Alex came together is a testament to how life can deliver the most unexpected magic and how wonder can emerge from chaos, even heartbreak.

Julie and Alex have been exploring their consciousness through ceremony for years, sharing the wisdom they’ve uncovered and supporting one another through integration. They also share a last name, as Alex is married to Todd Belfer, Julie’s ex-husband. Their unique and extraordinary relationship highlights what is possible for modern families.

Todd introduced Ashley to Alex, which eventually led to Ashley reconnecting with Julie. Although they had known each other casually for years, Ashley & Julie’s reunion uncovered a deeper bond – they discovered they were soul sisters on the same path of healing and growth. Recognizing the significance of their connection, they knew they were meant to collaborate and create something transformative together.

I Am My Own Teacher was born in the wake of Julie’s eldest son, Grayson, unexpected passing in 2022 (read more about Grayson’s story below). A true phoenix rising from the ashes story, it was Grayson’s transition, and the almost immediate reemergence, of his soul’s energy into all of our lives, that irrefutably demonstrated, that he is still HERE and guiding us into the next chapter.

Shaped by continual Grayson’s guidance, Julie, Ashley, and Alex integrate their shared wisdom, lived experiences, ceremonial lessons, and a unified vision. Each offers a distinct perspective, diverse background, and extensive mentoring experience, enriching their work and enabling it to deeply resonate with a wide and diverse audience.

The Rise of Grayson

From Julie

In December of 2022 our beloved boy Grayson, took his life at the age of 23 years old, sending our world into chaos. Because of my work with psychedelic medicines, which I now realize was preparing me for what would happen to my family, I knew that he was not truly gone. I knew where he would be, and so I shook my self out of my shock and immediately went to go find him. I searched within my own consciousness, and by the grace of God, he was right there waiting for me, just like he always is.

This is where the phoenix rises and creates wonder out of chaos. After the most important ceremony of my life, reuniting with Grayson SOUL TO SOUL, I began to guide my family in the exact same way. Each of them were able to connect with him, able to speak directly with him, and most importantly, able to feel his love. Since that first ceremony, Grayson has continually made his presence known. Friends, and even those who never knew him life, while in ceremony and even after, began receiving his love and gentle guidance. He has made it clear that his role is to be of service to anyone in need, to anyone who wishes his help, and he is often present with all of our guides.

“Grayson is a master at creating vivid visual and audible landscapes. From musical waterfalls, to cozy visiting spaces, I am always grateful when he visits, knowing we will have an amazing and heartfelt conversation. He has taught me so much, and there’s still so much more to learn from him.”

Cindy

Alex Belfer

For years I lived by the story that “something is wrong”. I lived in a perpetual state of fixing. I studied self-help books, psychology, fitness, health, and became a nurse in the search to understand how to “fix”, “heal” and “cure” that which appeared to be the cause of suffering. This underlying feeling of needing to be “fixed” lead me on a quest to try and uncover the root cause of this belief that something is wrong with me; until I realized that there wasn’t.

It wasn’t until I stopped searching the external, physical world for an answer and began to look within myself that I came to realize there is nothing wrong with me and there never actually had been. It was like putting on new glasses with lenses that allowed me to see everything that was right rather than everything that was wrong. And in this discovery of there is nothing wrong, I could see that even my having that belief for so many years is exactly the belief that was required for me to find this path in my life.

It was like the torch in the night guiding me to keep searching and seeking until I reached the center of myself where the torch was no longer needed to illuminate that which is true. Your belief may not be that “something is wrong” but whatever story you’ve been carrying has been guiding you to exactly where are you now seeking more answers, looking for more and more.

Julie Belfer

My journey of exploration has led me down many paths. I have been a thousand different women, just in this lifetime. Each iteration perfectly imperfect and divinely designed to propel me forward on the path home.

I hold immense reverence for the power of sacred plant medicines and molecules and the profound healing they have provided since ancient times.

Combining years of spiritual and psychedelic training, it has been my deepest joy to serve others in their healing journeys, helping them navigate the labyrinth of self-discovery that leads to lasting freedom and authentic wholeness.

As a soul guide, I work in tandem with my beloved son Grayson, who now resides in spirit. Together, we lovingly usher individuals into the realms of expanded consciousness, to remember the truth of their being and reclaim their power.

Ashley Snyder

I believe life presents us with moments to embrace transformative change. In 2013, I came to a profound realization: I was physically exhausted, spiritually and emotionally disconnected and I had lost touch with my true desires. This awareness prompted me to ask: What if my purpose is greater than the roles I’ve been playing in business, family, and society? What if I’m here for something more?

These questions sparked a profound transformation. I allowed this new way of seeing the world, and myself, to become my vision and, ultimately, my life’s purpose. Through this journey, I discovered that the freedom I was seeking wasn’t something external – it was something I had to unlock within.

I realized that by embracing the totality of who we are means welcoming every part of ourselves – the light and the dark – as essential to our WHOLEness. Both aspects hold wisdom, beauty, and greatness, each offering unique gifts for growth and transformation. By honoring the full spectrum of our whole being, we step into authenticity and create space for true self empowerment.

Now, as part of my life’s purpose, I support others on their journey back to themselves to honoring their lives entirely. I support them in finding the courage to embrace transformation,
reconnecting with their inner truth, embodying their truest self.